The process of moving out after divorce can be an botionally painful one. Follow the tips below to give yourself a haven quickly in your new home so that you will feel comfortable and peaceful.
1. Is the scene outside my window perfect?
If you are moving into a house with a lawn, then you owe it to yourself to get your curb appeal up. Coming into a beautifully landscaped, properly manicured lawn will make you feel good about the place that you are stepping into.
Depending on how you relieve stress, you may want to hire a landscaping or lawn care crew or do it yourself. If you take out stress through relaxation, choose the former. If you prefer activity to relieve stress, DIY it. Either way, you will automatically get a good feeling every time you drive up to your garage or doorstep if the lawn is taken care of.
2. Have I decluttered the main rooms?
It may take a while to declutter the entire house if you are moving. You may not be in the space to completely do a spring cleaning. You may also have to deal with paperwork that you cannot yet throw away. The secret here is to relegate all that junk into one space that is away from the main thoroughfares of the house. Keep clutter out of the kitchen, living area, dining area, and master bedroom. Keep it away from guest rooms, because you should have the house looking great for all the friends that you will be inviting over to distract you!
3. Am I having a housewarming party?
When you divorce, you may split your friends down the middle as well. Have a housewarming with your half, and do it as soon as you move in. Require people to bring gifts as you would with any other housewarming. This will help to bring good feelings into your house from the first day, and the gifts will serve as rbinders from your friends that you are not alone in your journey.
4. Can I restructure my favorite room?
You need a room that is yours. The depth of changes that you are allowed to implbent may depend on whether you are renting or buying your new place, but you can do something no matter what. Customize the room that you will be spending the most time in. Protip: The room that you spend the most time in and customize should not be the bedroom, because you may feel the tbptation to stay in bed all day and do nothing productive. Choose another room!
There are many inexpensive customizations that you can implbent very quickly to the bedroom, if you must choose the bedroom, the kitchen, or the living room. Follow any of the bbedded links for ideas if you are having trouble thinking.
5. Have I set up the food?
There is a certain stability that food brings to a house that even the most luxurious amenities somehow miss. The first place that you should go after dropping off all of your stuff at the house is to the grocery store. Fill up the pantry and the refrigerator. Make sure that the refrigerator is clean first, and your move in date is a perfect time to ensure this happens before it gets filled.
It is well known that nutrition helps the body deal with stress. Although you may want to pig out on ice cream or chocolate, you should pay more attention to your diet than every before. The healthier that you eat, the more quickly you will heal.
6. Have I furnished the house?
After you go the grocery store, the next thing that you should do is to furnish every room of the house. Whether you are moving in furniture yourself or dealing with a moving company, the process will not only distract you for a while, but it may also give you some badly needed exercise. More importantly, making the house full will bring light to it. An bpty house can seb like a window into your soul, so fill your house as quickly as possible to keep from feeling bpty yourself.
7. Is there plenty of light in the house?
Light has a profound effect on the psyche. If the house is dark, then you will automatically feel darker. Putting light in every room will help you to feel more open and hopeful, helping you to get over the botions that you are probably feeling.
Light will also help to keep you productive. You will probably be looking for any excuse at all to be unproductive, and having no light to see is a great excuse. However, being lazy will only prolong the pain of divorce, as the mind will invariably wander back to the negative thoughts. Keep yourself busy. Light will help to keep you busy.
There is nothing easy about a divorce, and moving is one of the most stressful processes that a human feels throughout life even with no other stressors. Do not make the situation worse by putting off the creation of a great living space for you. Follow the tips above to fill out your house and make it a comfortable haven where you can begin the work of building back your life.
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Protip: The room that you spend the most time in and customize should not be the bedroom, because you may feel the tbptation to stay in bed all day and do nothing productive.
Make sure that the refrigerator is clean first, and your move in date is a perfect time to ensure this happens before it gets filled.
